Before jumping into the deleterious effects of screen usage, I want to mention one thing: giving your kid a device when he or she wasn’t ready for it does not make you a bad parent or a bad person. There’s a definite tension—do I want my child to be part of this group chat in middle school, or do I want him or her to be shunned? All of us are trying to do the best we can to navigate the very complex changes in our society, and the right decision isn’t always obvious. At TOBET, we don’t want to condemn; we want to help pave the path forward.

Our bodies tell us of our inherent value, regardless of our productivity. While sitting around doing nothing can make us feel useless, we have to realize that our worth comes from the fact that God made us in His own image and likeness, not from the work we produce.

Here’s one simple yet profound lesson from working at TOBET: when working, set aside the things distracting you from the task at hand. Keeping your attention on your phone is like keeping one foot in the door: your mind isn’t willing to focus when your body could leave at a moment’s notice. Be where your body is!

The Catholic Church has caught a lot of flak over the years for defending the idea that the word marriage means “an indissoluble union between one man and one woman.” Some take issue with the “indissoluble” part, some with the “one” part, and still others with the “man and woman” part.

If you only had ONE hour of mandated formation every year to teach over 2.5 million Catholic children and youth, what would you give them? We at TOBET know. We’d have them learn from our new program called Bridges and Boundaries.

Our bodies tell us of our inherent value, regardless of our productivity. While sitting around doing nothing can make us feel useless, we have to realize that our worth comes from the fact that God made us in His own image and likeness, not from the work we produce.

In the age of the Internet, we consider it quite fashionable to talk about how much we want to do away with the ever-present distraction of our smartphones. And yet for many of us – myself included – we don’t often get past the talking stage when discussing getting rid of our phones. Some people switch to “dumb” phones, but often times we have to just learn to live with this distraction as a cost of living in a modern world. That begs the question, why do these devices which we hoped would connect us make us feel more distant than ever? You can probably already guess the answer: because the body matters!

With the feast of the Baptism of Our Lord behind us, Christmas season has officially ended in the Roman Calendar. Though some will continue observing it until Candlemas, most of the Church has moved into Ordinary time. The excitement of the holiday season has calmed down, and we can look toward the year ahead. So, what’s next for TOBET?

Our bodies tell us of our inherent value, regardless of our productivity. While sitting around doing nothing can make us feel useless, we have to realize that our worth comes from the fact that God made us in His own image and likeness, not from the work we produce.

Our parents give us so much. From our very first heartbeat, they sacrifice no small amount of sweat, blood, and treasure to bring us to full adulthood. They love us unconditionally, and work to give us a good life. We, in turn, trust our parents implicitly, and try to give them the respect and obedience due to them. No other relationships in our lives can compare to the importance of that with our parents.

The Prophet’s Candle represented the hope of Israel in the promise of the Messiah. The Bethlehem Candle represented the faith of Mary and Joseph when they obeyed God’s commands. The Shepherd’s Candle represents the joy of those who received the good news of the Messiah. Finally, the violet Angel’s Candle represents the peace that Christ brings with His heavenly kingdom.

This week, we change pace a little. As opposed to a violet candle, we light a “rose” colored candle. This candle, the Shepherd’s candle, represents joy. This past Sunday also had a special name: Gaudete Sunday. “Gaudete” means “rejoice” and comes from the introit, “Gaudete in Domino semper: iterum dico, gaudete.” (Rejoice in the Lord always; again I say, rejoice.) So why, when in the midst of a season of waiting, should we rejoice two weeks before Christmas?